V-Day: No Money No Honey?

A sign of over-indulgence deep pockets: matter more than a love-you-deep.

I note and observe that spending by women go up many folds during the recent Valentine's Day weekend.

And so too do the credit card bills of their husbands and boyfriends.

I think the commercial aspect of Valentine's Day is a sad reality of consumerism and cheapened love.

Where the slightest impulse to spend and every excuse to get what's neither important nor symbolic of ones love to the other is getting too prevalent and embarassing.

Depressing.

In times of economic gloom, I think spending should be curbed to help your loved ones survive the storm and save for a better future together.

Credit card bills topple lives and ruin relationships.

So what's Valentine's day to these people these days?

A day to celebrate Lusting Love or a day that broke the bank and the bond that brought 2 people together?

Q

Time to Get my SEXY Back

Heart Ache: The cruelty of being taken for Granted

When the lust and honeymoon period is over and you get to see the person deteriorating right before your eyes, it hurts.

Let's call this person I 've foolishly gave my heart, body and soul to, 'A'.

I'm still blindly in love btw. Just really disgruntled and disillusioned. Pain and more pain.

Lemme tell you my sad story:

1) It started when they 'A' became highly unreliable when it comes to keeping promises and staying true to their words and said-appointments.

'A' could promise to meet and cancel the appointment minutes before meeting up. Doing this over and over again , over multiple dates.

Makes you feel betrayed and like a fool. Your time , energy and effort in pushing everything else aside doesnt seem to matter .

2) Then you realise that 'A' takes conversations lightly. 'A' doesn't remember the things discussed. 'A' doesnt care the issues talked about; even the pivotal ones regarding the relationship; like how I feel or what needs to improve to make the relationship postive.

I'm always left wondering 'Didn't we have this conversation before? You talk about it like its new and surprising. You don't care or remember do you? '

3) Broken promises of 'I will call' and 'I will inform you'. Taking it lightly once again. And caring little of your schedule and waiting.

4) Lying or trying to escape a situation when confronted. What da hell is wrong in being honest? There's no deep dark secret is there?

5)Not messaging/ calling/replying me for hours and even days/weeks on end. MSN messaging is FREE. SMS is cheap and takes mere seconds to send. Calls can be a short 5 mins even just before bed time. None. Simply cannot be bothered. 'Tired' and 'busy' are but lame excuses over a lack of effort and commitment.

6) Ego and Issues. Cannot take critisms. Cannot take judgements even when all are positive and contructive. Well, YOU STARTED IT ; being the total a**. So how can I not say? Especially when I've made it clear that non of the critisms is directed at the person but at the attitude towards bending the relationship.

7) Generally being Un-Nice. Unromantic. Abrasive. Flighty. Detachment and Escapism.

8) Worst of all : Insensitive. Already the total jerk-off and still making comments like 'You should take an STD test' out of the blue or when I I bought 'A' a Xmas gift, 'A' actually said 'Is this gift new? (As in is it a recycled gift?) .

W T F .

Love is indeed blind for ... I'll say it again : I'm still blindly in love btw. Just really disgruntled and disillusioned. Pain and more pain.


*** It seems 'A' just wants the perks of a relationship. Taking and not giving.

Baby,

Love is like a bed of roses. There're the torns too when you roll over after making Love.

Q...

Why can't there be commitment to happiness?

ISSUES. Reclaiming my Dignity , I try.

I Still Believe

Affairs of the heart is the most painful .

So painful that you'll come to a point that the blame game is but a pointless revisit to the wound.

So it stops.

And all you hope and all you wish for is understanding , love and reconciliation.

Time will heal all wounds?


Q ...I still believe.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T pls

I really don't understand why relationships have to be made so complicated.

When you love some one, do you not show care, concern and respect ?

I'm not asking for money or blood.

All I asked is the simple action of consideration and integrity in one's actions and words.

Is this person's heart made of stone? ... When a promise is broken once too often, this person has become nothing more than a Liar (?!).
I don't want to acknowledge that . But my baby is becoming. :(:::

Q ....Is my heart made of stone?

Sigh.

Love and Betrayal

Gloomy. Doomy.

For those of you who do not know anything about what the Gloomy Bear phenomenon is all about (like me very recently )...

The following graphic images will conjure up notions of love, betrayal and murder.

* Warning: Not for the faint or broken hearted .



>>>One day, Little Boy, found this cute bear-cub abandoned at the door steps. It looked pitiful and the boy decided to give it a home.


Little Boy gave it all the love he could. Fed it and even bathed it often. Talked to it. Loved it.

The Bear grew up big and strong. And one day, decides that Little Boy was too little to be called Master. The bear was a cub no more.

To sum up a tragic start to a beautiful ending:


And the love never ends.

When you love someone too much, how much are you willing to give? How much are you willing to take?

Q